Daring Greatly

I watched a talkshow  with  Dr.Brene Brown ,the author of the book Daring Greatly.I guess many of you guys know her from her famous Ted Talk.I am going to summarize what I understood and learned from her by the book.In your life when you try to move on and do something that really excites you you totally feel uncomfortable and that feeling shows that you are on the right path ,the edge of something really great.And if this project is something creative like writing a book or smt. then being creative is only possible when you are vulnerable.
The name of the book is also very catchy and in fact this is a part of famous Theodore Roosevelt quote.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
  Which basicly means that it takes guts to show up when there is no absolute projection for success,being in the arena.When reading the book I realize most of us trying to be brave all the time and this book tells that you can be brave and you can be coward in different times and that's perfectly normal.
When you care whateverybody thinks it makes your life harder but if you don't care about what anybody thinks you loose the chance of connection with people.But when you define yourself with whatothers think it also creates a problem ,you loose the chance of being vulnerable.The author finds a cute little solution for that.She carries a little piece of paper in her purse which has 6-8 names of the persons who really matters to her.She said there should be certain amount of people you really care about their feedbacks because these people love you with all your imperfections and your vulnerability.
I would love to tell a funny personal story here.A friend of mine made a joke on my tits ,how small they are .I stood for a sec and I realize she can joke all she wants she is not on my important person list.And it totally gave me a new perspective.
On the show Dr.Brown also talked about how vulnerability is important in our worklives.As most of people I dig into this issue only for personal reasons ,a better romantic relationship mostly.But Dr.Brown highlighted that to be a good leader you have to show up vulnerable in times of uncertainity ,risk and emotional exposure.A leader is strong enough to say things are not going well I do'nt know what to do next but I am sure we can find a reasonable way to cope.But timing and place is also important in being vulnerable.Most of the entrepreneurs think that failure is not an option.Which is the ideal way of acting just on the surface. But if  you dig it you realize that in real life a smart business owner is someone who can recognize that loosing money is option ,failure is option and instead of grinding over same behaviours and expect different results,this person can end up shutting down the business and minimize the loss.
And finally on the show Dr.Brown said something really melted my heart away.Creativity is the process where things move from head to the heart and to the hand.Oh boy I love creating by all means.